So many people think that just liking diapers or abdl I general is enough common ground for a relationship. I would think you would need a connection. You aren’t going to spend 100% of your time doing the ABDL thing, and if there isn’t anything more to the couple, then what? Trouble that’s what. So in some ways it is better to connect outside of the diaper fetish and bring it into the relationship. It doesn’t work for everyone though.